Wednesday, April 1, 2026
At the extreme, wanting is an addiction. An alcoholic is in want of a drink. If you’re not an alcoholic, but an overeater, you’ll understand this “always-hungry” phenomenon, even when full. Craving—that’s where most of us live—nervous for a cigarette.
Does anyone want to be or aspire to be an alcoholic, an overeater, or a smoker? I know of no-one who dreams of being fat, drunk, and full of carcinogens. I don’t know of a single person who’s aspiration is addiction. Do you want to be an overachiever? Same principle: gluttony.
Addictions keep you in a double bind. No one wants to worry, but we do, thinking that worrying can be solved with more worrying; in the same way as an overeater thinks eating comfort food “calms their nerves.” A cigarette is both the cause and relief of nerves in a vicious cycle.
How does one recover from “wanting” a drink, a donut, or a fag? The most crucial aspect of addiction recovery is a sustained commitment to change—to break the cycle.
The road to recovery will lead you from guilty pleasure to enthusiastic, innocent desire. When you desire from the spirit, you desire enthusiastically. Enthusiasm, or en theo means “in God.” Your desire will be deeper, more joyful, and more playful. It won’t come from “gotta have it” mindset, but a “gotta release it” joyfulness within you.
You don’t “need” it. The craving dissolves and a new love involves. Show yourself you can do without a paycheck, a partner, or rushing around – all these things we think we “need,” like a puff on a cigarette.
Live without it until the craving dissipates. Commit to being freed from compulsive wanting, clinginess, and comfort. Then, graduate to enthusiastic desire. Pure, unnecessary gravy, where time and money are no barrier and life is mere play because you “gotta release it” joyfully.